Having two articles out in major newspapers in two countries and ebooks on Amazon, has been a scary but satisfying experience.
Sending your words out into the world is no different from sending your young child to school for the first time. Even as you fear for your child’s safety, wondering if she is ready or able to face the demands of an unpredictable world outside the comfortable cocoon of home, you know you have to do it, as much for yourself, as for the child, because it is an opportunity to grow, to expand in a way that is not possible by being cloistered in a safe zone.
And then, your child comes home with a smile, having made a new friend, convincing you that you did the right thing. Similarly, I received many positive responses from total strangers who wrote to me about their memories and shared a bit of their lives, the satisfying part. The point of writing and putting it out there is to make connections and that feels good.
Just as the greater world will hold other experiences for your child, not all of which will be pleasant, I received a couple of not-so-supportive responses, the scary part, of being in a public space. Dissenting opinion and constructive feedback, both are welcome, because it is so much better than complete indifference.
Either way, a connection has been made. One that I intend to keep. By writing more.
What scary but satisfying experiences have you had? Please share in the comments.
This picture appeared in the Straits Times, Singapore, earlier this week – providing a splash of color in an otherwise dull newspaper page, proof that you can take the Indian out of India but cannot take India out of the Indian.
Every immigrant comes to terms with his decision to leave his country of origin once he starts putting down roots and participating in the world he now inhabits. He is richer for the experience and so is the new place he calls home, for the distinctive culture, quirks and cuisine that the “foreigner” brings.
What unique gifts do Indians of the diaspora bring to the countries they move to? Share your comments below.
Modern Love is a popular section of the New York Times. It features deeply personal essays about relationships. The essays are emotionally honest and the story is told in a compelling way. One of our favorites, written by an Indian writer, is titled How a Bird Feeder Revived My Marriage.
We are sure there are many more Desi Modern Love stories out there — stories that are shaped as much by the people that give and receive love (or not) as they are by the situations, opportunities, and challenges against which they play out.
Wouldn’t it be wonderful to read and tell such stories?
Every year, in the month of March, the number of articles and media bites by women and about women reaches a peak, thanks to International Women’s Day, celebrated on the 8th of March. It is important for women to speak about opportunities and inclusion, for safe workplaces and equal pay, for recognition and reward, for all that women do. But is it only women who need to speak up for their cause? This is not just a “woman’s problem”, as it is sometimes labelled. For women to participate equally in society while balancing all the other responsibilities they shoulder, men need to speak up, show up and support the cause side by side with the women who make their life worthwhile.
Here’s a thought-provoking article by my friend, Radha Rangarajan, who has written eloquently about the first feminist in her life, her father.